“We tend to idealize tolerance, then wonder why we find ourselves infested with losers and nut cases.”
–Patrick Nielsen Hayden
“If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn’t part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us.
“I’ve always wanted to be Brigitte Bardot.”
“There are things that are so serious that you can only joke about them.”
–Werner Karl Heisenberg
“His mother had often said, “When you choose an action, you choose the consequences of that action.” She had emphasized the corollary of this axiom even more vehemently: “When you desire a consequence you had damned well better take the action that would create it.”
–Lois McMaster Bujold
“A mature person is one who does not think only in absolutes, who is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally, who has learned that there is both good and bad in all people and in all things, and who walks humbly and deals charitably with the circumstances of life, knowing that in this world no one is all-knowing and therefore all of us need both love and charity.”
–Anna Eleanor Roosevelt
The first quote is a little expression of that sheer meanness toward the weak that is so common here in the USA, the great home of social darwinism.
I’ve heard the second quote, and believe it to be generally true. However, I would add that the hatred that springs from envy, which I have often felt, is clearly NOT due to hating something that is a part of onself—unless you could say that envy is hatred of someone else who has received something that you feel by rights belongs to you, and so is in a sense “part of yourself”.
Who wouldn’t want to be Brigitte Bardot? Gender considerations aside, she got a vast amount of what the rest of us must largely do without—attention.
“Things that are so serious…”—the greatest one by far being death.
Quote from “his mother”: True, but assumes a fully-functioning personality. Personally, as a neurotic, I have found that in many areas of life, TRY AS I MIGHT, I was unable to bring myself to “take the action that would create a consequence.” See also, please, the poem “The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock”, by T. S. Eliot; or the play “Hamlet”, by you know who.
“A mature person…”: Easy for Eleanor Roosevelt to say! She was rich. The rich sit on very thick cushions. They can better manage to be mature and deliberative than the rest of us because most of the vast numbers of nasty sneaking threats whose approach can make us panic are never going to have any real chance to bite them on the ass.